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Fundraising drive set up for family of murdered Dorchester woman
By adamg on Sun, 04/11/2021 - 9:03pm
GoFundMe to help defray funeral costs for the family of Delois Brown, gunned down as she sat on her Olney Street porch during yesterday's warm weather, victim of a gunman aiming for somebody else.
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This is heartbreaking.
Damn funerals are expensive
Damn funerals are expensive in Boston.
They're expensive everywhere
The average American funeral costs $9,000.
Body donation
Tufts medical school gratefully accepts body donations. They assume all transportation costs. The cremated remains are returned to next-of-kin. If you're not planning to use your body after you die, you might consider putting it to good use training doctors. My parents did it, and I'm going to as well. You have to arrange for the donation in advance.
Tufts Health Sciences Anatomical Gift Program
Phone 617-636-0837
Which is great, but...
...perhaps not the most appropriate suggestion when the problem is not being able to afford funeral services. It's a worthy choice and one that I would probably make myself, but...perhaps not the moment for it.
Optional
If funeral services of the kind you have to pay for are unaffordable, there's no law that says you have to have them. Neither of my parents wanted services, and if they had, I'm sure they would have been OK with a family ceremony in one of our homes. As it was, their passing cost nothing, as Tufts handled everything.
They are optional
They're also very much expected in many cultures. People's families deserve to be able to hold the standard sendaway for their faith/ethnicity/neighborhood/region.
Again...
...your point, while worthy of discussion in the abstract, is ill-timed. I really hope that if you ever have to deal with grieving people face to face, you will be more tactful.
What
I was responding to Miss M's comment that funerals cost 9 thousand dollars. You think it's insensitive to offer a free alternative to people who would have trouble coming up with that? I'd say you're insensitive to their situation, not me. If I ever have to deal with grieving people? Did you miss where my parents both died? I have also lost numerous aunts and uncles, and grieved with their children.
I suppose you'll also think me insensitive to express my opinion that the funeral industry is parasitical, preying on vulnerable people and lobbying governments to support their expensive product. We're not going to agree.
Indeed, we are not
Not about some things. This is a thread about raising funds for funeral expenses, not about reforming the funeral industry, and while you and I would both agree that funeral costs seem (to my uneducated view) to be higher than they should be, in the moment they are what they are. The question here is not about whether and how to reform the funeral industry (which, again, is something we probably agree on), but what to do now. I'm going to donate so that the family can do whatever they wish and not question whether I think that's appropriate or overpriced or whatever.
Yes, I agree
My family has done this as well and the process was handled with the upmost dignity and respect, but the decision is an entirely separate issue. I know the post was probably well-meaning, and most of us are are probably not “planning to use (your) body after (you) die”, but that line seemed pretty cold when discussing a grieving family that most likely can barely even think straight right now.
S***hole country
Guns are a $28,000,000,000 industry and sales have soared in the past year, yet its friends, neighbors, and every day citizens that are asked to reach into their wallets and contribute to GoFundMe accounts for innocent gun-violence victims in Colorado, Atlanta, and now Boston.
Of course those of us who can should send money and support the family of Delois Brown, but what kind of ass-backwards s***hole country are we living in where the manufactures of deadly weapons are paying Wayne LaPierre to live his best yacht life and UHubbers are paying for Ms Brown’s funeral?
Better yet
Where’s the shooter? Civil forfeiture is abhorrent, but if we’re going to have it, let’s get this lady a decent service instead of just putting the money into the Treasury.
Sure.
The shooter is a small fish with shallow pockets. Of course he should be held to full account and maybe violent criminals should be financially liable for victims’ medical and funeral costs.
But if you go after street criminal money it’s like digging for change in the couch. $28B is real money. It’s time we start disrupting the money of the gun industry and the politicians who profit from it. Bankrupting the NRA was a good start.